tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8029032303497442101.post5719822566365647373..comments2023-06-03T05:24:10.853-04:00Comments on A Philly Family: The (Emotional) Cost of FormulaHeather Kelleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10017756184210886742noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8029032303497442101.post-434702175413030182009-04-24T11:35:00.000-04:002009-04-24T11:35:00.000-04:00Thank you - I think you are right. The new phrase...Thank you - I think you are right. The new phrase that Ed and I use for things is "it just wasn't a fit." That's all. <br /><br />What I find interesting about this particular issue, though, is that it's like an onion. Just when I think I'm totally fine with it, I find another layer.<br /><br />But, I have to say that now she's a bit older, it's easier. Now, she can smile at me and I know she's happy and that all is well.Heather Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10017756184210886742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8029032303497442101.post-11851803812712758542009-04-23T15:45:00.000-04:002009-04-23T15:45:00.000-04:00Very well said. And I think you tried and it didn'...Very well said. And I think you tried and it didn't work out for you. That's it. You tried. It didn't work out for you. You can't get anything else out of that transaction. There's nothing else to mine their, no other hidden, deep significance or meaning that you have to keep picking away at, keep looking for. You tried. It didn't work out for you. That's what you should tell the people if they ask. And then smile. You're right--everyone is trying hard enough for those things when they try hard at all. It's hard enough when you're really trying. The result doesn't matter, ultimately, because we can't control that. It's hard to get our minds around that, but life is in the trying, not in the result. Because we can't control that as much we think or want to. We can only control how much we try. <br /><br />My therapy lady tells me to say to myself: It's OK to be imperfect and no one is going to punish me for it.<br /><br />I don't think a human body is perfect or imperfect, so the example may not totally fit, but I think it's helpful to see the issue that way. No one is going to punish you for it and you shouldn't either.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com